There comes a time in your life, while growing up, that you no longer feel the need to apologize for silly things. I read this article (probably about a year ago) that talked about things you should never apologize for. Although I saw what they were saying, I noticed I was still saying “sorry” for most of those things.
We are trained from an early age to apologize, get punished, and fix what we have done wrong. Honestly though, there are many things I started feeling myself apologize for, that I had no need to feel sorry about.
It wasn’t until this summer that I truly realized there is no need to say sorry. Yeah, sometimes you are gonna hurt people, even when you don’t try to. Sometimes you are gonna break someones heart, even if you don’t want to. Every now and then you might do something, or feel something, that people don’t agree with.
However, your emotions, thoughts, and feelings mean just as much as theirs do. If they are grown up enough to understand this, you should be able to communicate whatever you need to without anyone getting too bruised up.
There are times you should say sorry. For example, when you actually feel sorry. When you truly screwed up, or made a huge mistake. If you have had an accident, are were truly harmful/hurtful with your words. (especially if you said them out of anger and not true emotions). However, I feel there is a lot we naturally say “sorry” for, even if we don’t mean to.
You should never apologize for how you feel, what you want, or what you do not want. There is no reason you should apologize for having thoughts or needs. Sometimes we get so sensitive to others, that we are not able to have and voice our own opinions, but if that’s the case, they simply need to spend some time changing how they react to things. This in no way means that you should have to apologize, simply because they are not mature enough to handle the reality.
A lot of people in this world are going to try and tear you down, or make you feel terrible for your own thoughts and emotions, but people are terrible. Stay true to you, and never back down just because they want you to feel bad. The more you start to stand your ground, and stop those silly “sorry’s” that mean nothing, the sooner you will be able to live a happier and drama free life. Saying sorry not only gives them a false hope that you actually mean it, but it also sub-consciously puts yourself down, even if you don’t realize it.
There comes a point in life, where you have to say what you mean, mean what you say, and you should never apologize for voicing what and how you feel, no matter how people take it.